How to boost self-confidence
Strengthening our self-confidence is important. When our confidence plummets it affects all parts of our life. We feel insecure at work, unsure whether we will find or sustain a loving relationship. Your level of self-confidence can show in many ways: your behavior, your body language, how you speak, what you say, and so on.
It is so important, and yet most of us struggle with it. We might be excellent at our work, but unless we feel confident, our abilities might not get noticed or valued. We could be ideal as a life partner, but if we lack confidence to make contact with people, then how will they ever know? Without self-confidence, it is hard to achieve our rightful success.
We can interfere with our self-confidence by is unkind and critical self-talk. If we say awful things to ourselves, how can we expect to feel good. This unkind and usually untrue and distorted self-criticism reduces our self-esteem. It makes us want to hide away. We stop taking risks, we want to feel safe. So we avoid doing the very things that will allow us to discover and enjoy life. We feel the need to wait until we feel better before we do the things that give us pleasure. If we stop doing all these good things, how can we feel anything but low?
Why wait? Take a tip from this TED talk. Fake it till you make it. In fact, faking it is a great way of learning how to do the real thing. When you pretend, you are practicing, you are role-playing. It may feel strange at first - like a new haircut takes a while to get used to. But soon it feels natural. Faking it gives you practice at this new skill. Give it a go!
So, in any situation where you feel unconfident, think about what Mr/Ms Confident would do. Think of someone you know who has oodles of self-confidence. Pretend to be them. You will be surprised how good you feel. Big it up too. Ham it up. Don’t go for half measures. Really get the feeling of what it is like to be Mr/Ms Confident.
Confident people inspire confidence in others: colleagues, bosses, friends, customers. Everyone feels safer when the other person seems confident. The interesting thing is, they are only looking at what they can actually experience - the behaviour, or the voice. They have no idea of what is going on inside. They can only know that if you show it in your behaviour. So, fake it. Don’t show what is going on, practice behaving as if you were confident. And they will think you are confident, they will treat you as though you are confident, and then, lo! You really will become confident.
Give it a try. And hypnosis can get you there faster. Call me!